We cannot stop a person from having extra marital affair, all i can say is, we stay loyal on our own side...
Recently, had been thinking alot. Well, it's not watever that's happening. It's just a casual talk n discussion with my colleagues regarding this matter.
We do have people around us who engaged in extra marital affair. Even if u r not handsome/pretty, not rich, not earning as much as u expected, but there r indeed such people who have none of the looks, $$, n yet can betray their partners.
I always think that, if a party really has extra marital affair, they can still get together all bcoz of the kids. Their relationship may not b as good as b4. The mirror has a crack, n no matter how u try to glue it back, u can still see the crack line... They may have cold war, or even quarrels everyday.
But, after listening to my colleague's point of view, i sat down n think about it, ya her point is right too.
People always say, try to be together, bcoz they have kids. Even if they dun love each other animore, or trust each other animore, try to stay together... it's all for the kids' good. But, my colleague said, sometimes it may do good to the kids if the parents stay together all bcoz of them. They may not grow 'healthily' as we thought... Kids are not stupid. They know something is wrong. By being together all bcoz of the kids, really is good meh? If the family is not happy, even if the family stays together, they will still not b happy. psychologically, emotionally dun seem to help if parents dun treasure the relationship. Might as well divorce, straight cut...
We know that kids come from broken families normally have behavioural prob, or even attitude prob. But if this couple has a 'crack', will the kid still grow 'normally' and is better than the kid who come from broken family? No difference actually.
I can only say, b4 u betray, think 1st. Think tat u have a wife/husband at home, n your children waiting for u at home. But u still take up that step to betrayal, it means u had actually given up on your family. N pls, if u really decided to betray your family, when u get dumped by your lover, pls do not b thick-skinned to come back to find your spouse again.
I told my colleagues, many women tried all means to maintain themselves, in order to prevent hubbies to find a mistress. But think again, if he really wants to betray u, no matter how well u maintain your figure, your looks, he will still betray u. Of course i do not mean that then u can simply sit there n allow yourself to grow horizontally like nobody's business lah. All we can do is, we ourselves stay loyal. If they really wana go off track, there's nothing much we can do. If trying to salvage still dun help, it means it's time to give up.
Said is easier than done. Give up... it's hard. But, after all, we still need to move on. Ladies who encounter hubby going off track, i really sympathise them. But we as modern women, should not b far too weak. We have our own earning power. Dun rely on hubby on EVERYTHING. We must b independent too. Tats y now we r equal.
We have more commitment when we have kids. I hope u can still remember. Why do we have kids? Aren't they the gems of our love? They were created in the beginning bcoz we love each other deeply, tat explained their existence... Dun let it fade easily, bcoz true love should not fade. But we normally get carried away by temptations. Dun forget, we have self control. This skill should be used to fight off temptations. It's hard to avoid, but i am sure if 1 is determined, no temptations will make u sway. I hope all couples that i know of will stay strong n be loyal to each other.
Our school's annual event Mid Autumn Festival Celebration is the biggest event in the school every year, n of course being a SAP school, all these cultural festivals had to be cultivated into the children.. this event has to be conducted every year too, n as chinese lunar calendar Mid Autumn Festival is always around Sept...
Our school's celebration was held yesterday. My duty this year is different from my other years of participation. This year i am selling balloons with 1 of my colleague.. together with other 2 colleagues from the AM session, n some student helpers.
Parents n kids were happy to attend the event. There were performances, games, selling of food, tidbits, drinks, ice-creams etc... making of mooncakes, appreciation of the making of chinese tea, calligraphy too...
Initially, the weather wasn't cooperative by raining... but luckily, still managed to clear n the activities still continued to go outdoors instead of in the hall... the atmosphere was definitely better outdoors...
We ended the whole event at around 9.45pm.. we were all v tired.. some of the committee members, n SLs (school leaders) stayed back to ensure everything was cleared n packed... I was v tired... haha..
Some of our ex-colleagues came back to attend the event... It was great to see them,but of course no much time to chat lah.. Wanqiu, Shuli, Emily, Deng lao shi etc.
After this event, i will be busy with the burning of CDs of the listening comp for P2 n P3, which i am very angry abt, shall not talk about it here. This year is full of programmes n projects, n really, time is fast, is almost end of Sept, which i was looking forward to.
Jaden is going to b 4 in 2 months time. His pronounciation is much clearer now though still need PLENTY of assistance n improvement. He needs to learn better how to communicate with peers. He knows alot of things but just doesnt know how to express. But at least now he listens better to instructions. I will have to help him abit more after my busy 2012 which will end by late Nov hopefully.
2012 is a fast year but yet busy. But counting down to events makes time pass easier, coz proj on hand getting lesser by then, but til now is not fully free yet... I shall continue to count...
Back to the event, it was a successful one, n was great to let people know that chinese festivals are impt to Chinese, n we shall not forget our roots..
Well, it's not a good start for term 4...
Last weekend already felt my throat abit unwell liao.. but worse thing came in on Monday when i started work.
Throat was feeling painful. When i was teaching, just kept coughing while talking. The feeling was bad. My Mon-Wed timetable is terrible with marathon periods...
Tues went to clear my work n marking while coughing my lungs out. I couldn't raise my voice too much or else will start coughing again, i think i am somehow losing my voice. See doc, said that my throat inflammation.
On MC today too. Can still talk but v coarse voice. I wonder if i can still teach smoothly tmr... on off will keep coughing, tmr go back to work, if still cough like mad n affect my teaching, then i have to apply sick leave again. Wat a week to start for the last term of the year.
Hope dun dpread to my boys. Children fall sick v pathetic one. They dunno how to express like us. I hate coughing. sometimes when the cough gets too bad, my breathing prob will occur. I must ensure i recover asap...
After a tiring Sat celebrating our 2nd boy Javier's 1st birthday, today is Paris' 2nd birthday. If Jav decided to come out a day later 1 year ago, they will b able to celebrate their birthdays together! Haha..
Bcoz Jav was taking his nap, tats y we were e last grp to reach. Opppsss. Paris had already cut cake, n was taking a nap when we reached.
Kelly's mum cooked all e food for today, n they ordered extras from KFC n Pizza Hut. Thank u auntie for the food, it was great. Hubby n I were v full that til now we can forgo abt having dinner. While we eat, Jaden was playing, n Xiaolin, Rod they all helped to entertain Javier. Haha.. thanks so much, or else there's no chance tat we could sit down n eat properly. Jaden likes Kelly's house, no throwing of tantrums, no scared. Yeah...
When we reached, 3 toddlers were napping. Birthday girl, Kyrine n Zachary were sleeping in 3 rooms. Haha... It was a private n small event too.
Today is the weekend where i would want the time to stop moving, bcoz it means the week break is over, n tmr is the start of the term. Well, time flies n tmr will b the start of Term4, last term for the year. I'm downcounting to my busy days as the terms starts n ends...
My throat is not feeling v well leh, felt v coarse inside... Feel like coughing but cannot cough out.. Felt some phlegm inside but cannot vomit it out. This kind of feeling is terrible to the max. Dun tell me i have to fall sick soon liao huh.. Must b e stupid weather cum the haze.
It seems tat this weekend, we r busy hoh. Haha... Yes we r in some ways. Paris a v blessed little lady. I wish she can always smile sweetly n grow up healthily. I look forward to see her having long nice hair, just like her mummy. I look forward to her greeting me happily just like her brother Princeton. I look forward to see her being cheerful just like her daddy. Happy 2nd Birthday Paris!
It's finally here, Javier's 1st birthday! Well, the rain decided to come in the night, making it cooling for the night sleep.
Our birthday boy, seems to know that it's his BIG DAY today, just refused to nap during noon time. Morn he woke up very early, managed to let him nap in the late morn, but got up ard 30min later as the jelly vendor came to deliver the jellies.
He was v grouchy in the noon actually, bcoz he was tired. But simply refused to nap. End up we need to start the cake cutting soon, ard 2.30pm, though i would wish to start at 2.13pm as he was born in 1413HR 1 year ago today.
There was a mis-communication somehow. My siblings n relatives did not come in for the cake cutting n birthday song singing.
The food n cake we ordered from xinyipin again. Was pleased with the cake, still left quite alot in the fridge. The food was more than enough this time, phew.
I'm glad my guests love the jellies. And all thanks to babyinlove. They r great! I bought the plastic covers myself, and started to pack when they arrived. They provided us with free anouncement cards too, n it was nice!
There weren't too many kids this time n i felt more 'quiet'.. Haha. The event was over v soon. Many ppl left one by one after cake cutting, n only left some of my relatives, my sis n my mum til evening time where we chatted n chatted.
Javier has received gifts, ang baos. All these not as impt as receiving blessings from people around him. He is far too excited today, hope he sleep well now all e way til morn. I hope Javier can b a better boy, who has good health n enjoys love from all of us. I oso hope my guests today enjoyed the food, door gifts n time at my house. I'm sorry if i had been a poor host.
Last but not least, i wana wish our little Javier a Happy Big 1 Birthday! Papa, mama n korkor love u!
Jav's 1st birthday is coming tomorrow!!! It's a Sat, wat a coincidence, tats y decided to celebrate...
Wat to wear for tmr has been set! Buffet n cake ok liao, confirmed with the caterer... door gifts too... Prepared something for the little kids who r coming tomorrow.. Just need to get some stickers tats all.. Decor wise, nothing leh.. His banner will b hung, as usual...
It's going to b a smaller scale of celebration this time.. dun wish to invite too many ppl, wait will end later n we will b more tired...
Well, this is our 2nd child, somemore same gender, i am a little not willing to accept gifts. angbao better, more practical. Watever Jaden needs, he already has, n will pass down to Javier.. There's nothing much i would want to get a similar kind of toy/gift for Javier. But well, it's a kind gesture, thanks aniway.
I always give ppl angbao rather than present, coz i think they can choose wat to do with the $$.. aniway it's not a big amt lah. save up also can, buy things oso can..
I hope it wont b as tiring as the prev celebrations. Wats impt is, relatives, families, best frds around to give Javier their blessings would b my wish. angbao or gifts, it's just a gesture.
I hope the event can end not tat late, n with less disruptions. Smooth smooth ok? Hope this little boy can b blessed with great health n happiness always! Bcoz he has his parents, elder brother n other relatives who will love him.
Today, 1st Sept, is no longer Teachers' Day. It has been changed to the 1st Friday of Sept, which will be on the 7th this year. We had the Teachers' Day Celebration yest in school, n evening Teachers' Day Dinner (TDD) at Bukit Batok CSC.
The Singspiration started as usual at 1230-1300.. The celebration concert started n ended around 1345. We had lessons as usual til 1700. Well, it is not a good day for lessons. Every1 is tired n children are hyper to the max..
We had to reach CSC by 1900. No time to go home change lah.. Somemore my left eye started to swell n turned red on Thurs, had to wear specs... not nice, so spoilt my mood. But no choice. We decided to change in sch n go west mall for a kopi session b4 going over to CSC.
This year's theme is Back to old sch days/ retro.. Well,we did not really go with the theme.. bought some polka dot kind of hair clips to wear instead.
The event was fun n entertaining.... but only won a $10 ntuc voucher.. i had big headache halfway thru e dinner.... might b bcoz of e swollen eye... Reached home at 2300 n was so exhausted.. Luckily it's a Sat today with no work...phew.. hope all my colleagues njoyed themselves last night n rest well during e weekend!
But, after listening to my colleague's point of view, i sat down n think about it, ya her point is right too.
I can only say, b4 u betray, think 1st. Think tat u have a wife/husband at home, n your children waiting for u at home. But u still take up that step to betrayal, it means u had actually given up on your family. N pls, if u really decided to betray your family, when u get dumped by your lover, pls do not b thick-skinned to come back to find your spouse again.
