Leap year for 2012

This happens once in every 4 years, leap year for 2012.... My bro n his gf Yinghui decided to hold their ROM solemnisation on this day 29-02-12...

Applied leave for today. Morn accompanied Jaden to his sch by taking public transport. Noon went to Pioneer Mall to do my hair, n oso to trim my eyebrows. Makeup i did myself, a v simple n light one..

The ROM solemnisation was held at Safra Jurong. After driving my family over, i had to make a 2nd trip to fetch my parents-in-laws n my boys...

Jaden was scared, was crying n throwing temper. It took him quite some time to cool down n then happy again. Javier was already rather sleepy, so was crying too, but he just dun bear to sleep, thus awhile cry n throw temper, a while kept looking ard.

The solemnisation started at 8pm... I drove my in laws n my princes back 1st at 9+, as Javier was really tired. He tried his best to stay awake, n it was obvious he was tired.

It was a small event with family members, n their good friends... All of us had a great time, n it was great to see my brother changing his status. They will b holding their customary next year, n it will b then officially Yinghui will be my sister-in-law, after the tea ceremony.

My bro settles down from today onwards, n i really feel happy for him. I know he will try his best to keep the marriage going n provide the best for themselves n their families in the coming future. Congrats my dearest brother.

Marriage life

In e past, we dun get to choose our life partner.. it's chosen by our parents.. some ppl didnt even koe their partner or seen their partner until the day of their wedding, n yet they can stay loving til e end of their lives.

When society improves, women fought for equality, women studied and pursue better qualifications, getting out from home to find a job, things changed. Watever men can do in the past, we as women oso can do it now. We can oso see women as superiors or bosses.

As everything changes so fast n furious for the generation now, ppl's thinking changed too.

Sometimes i do wonder isit bcoz of the thinking of ppl now, tat made me think tat nothing can last long.

I'm not saying about myself. I'm still v contented in my marriage life, as my hubby is still around by my side. Things get more better when now we have 2 sons in our family. But i was pondering, in the past couples get so loving, til they got married, n then kids, n then dunno somewhere got haywired, divorce came into the picture.

I just dun understand y when i heard ppl saying the word 'divorce', can say it so casually n as if nothing great. Now, we got the chance to choose our life partner, but why in e end cannot last? I did think of 'divorce' word when I was preg with Jav last year in 2011, as i was deeply depressed with many things. But after tat, i did regret that my mind did think of this. I told myself, i chose this route myself, good or bad, it's my choice. After the stage of depression n post-natal depression (somehow), I told myself never to mention this word again.

When i heard parents telling me abt my pupil's family backgrd ( divorced cases, single-parents, in e midst of divorcing etc), i felt sad for the kids. They r e most innocent ones in the earth. Why in e 1st place give birth to them, get married n then now divorce. Might as well dun get married in the 1st place. I just couldn't figure out why.

I just feel that, in a marriage life, we need to b hardworking to keep the relationship going, coz it's a long term commitment, or should say, a lifetime commitment. There is no need for you to boast or 'show off' or tell ppl around u that how happy u are in your marriage, coz ppl have eyes to see. Whether u r happy or not, actions tell all not from your mouth. Tats y there was once my sis ever asked me, " 你幸福吗？"... I stunned n stopped for awhile n i replied, I cannot give a confirm answer. Bcoz there r times tat i am so angry with hubby tat i dun feel happy. I told my sis, whether i happy in this marriage or not, i should not b the 1 to say, it's for ppl to say. example, I can now tell u so confidently tat i am happy, but ppl see me is, my hubby dun care abt care taking of children, not involving in parenting, etc. u think this is happy? So, i dun see the need to tell ppl how happy u are. We r not blind, we can see.

In a marriage, no 1 is absolute superior or lower... it should b equal.. dun rely totally on spouse in terms of finance. Coz by e end of e day, when things go wrong, u wont even have any right to say or decide. Women shld b independent, n guys should not b e ones to total provide for the family financially. Both must b involved in everything. Like tat then will have a kind of satisfaction. Well, it's up to individual. This is just my own opinions. I am proud to say tat i dun need to rely on hubby on most of e things, tat made me tough. I despise women who everything oso ask hubby to pay or to shoulder. Marriage life shouldt b this way. Everything must try to b equal n fair.

Hubby's swollen eyelid

Hubby's right eyelid dunno y became swollen without any reason, n it had been like tat for near to a week.

We thought that it might subside or disappear soon, but today it got worse than b4...

It was hubby's shift today, but worked for a few hours, he felt his eyelid painful, so went to the company doctor at JP. The doc asked him y now then come, if he come a wk later, the eye will sure swell til he cannot see.

After some observation, the doc gave hubby a referral letter to A&E... I quickly got myself ready, n waited for hubby to reach home, fed Javier milk n drove him over to my in laws' house then acc hubby to NUH A&E.

After some examination, the doc gave hubby some antibiotics, n gave him an apptment with the eye specialist. Say it might b an infection.. The eye specialist clinic will call hubby tmr to make an apptment, n then see if there is a need to do minor op.

Hubby is resting at home now. I took a bath after coming back from hosp, n i am going over to see my boys 1st. When is dinner time, then i will ask hubby to get up. Poor man. During CNY period, he was sick for 2 weeks, n now the eye prob... Hope nothing serious. Though doc suspected might b something like a pimple kind of situation, need to cut n remove the pus. But they cannot do anything 1st as the swell was too near to the eye, so shall see wat the specialist clinic says..

Javier on car seat to CCK

Today, i decided to let Jav try on car seat again.. hopefully to train him on that, just like Jaden...

I made an apptment with my mum to go Lot 1... so put Jav on car seat, drove to Boon Lay market to fetch mum, then to Lot1..

The previous time I put Jav behind.. but this time round, i place the car seat at the front.. He felt more assured, though in the beginning still feel like whining. When I drive, I got kept assuring him by holding his hand or trying to make him smile..

Throughout the whole journey from Jurong West to Boon Lay, n then to Lot1, he was perfectly ok in car seat. No crying, no whining... well done my boy! Just like Jaden... I hope soon he can adapt to such situation tat I drive, n he in car seat.

Previously was, I carried him, n took bus to my in laws house, or back to my own house. Today was a great beginning, as this was oso the 1st time i drove him a further distance n he in car seat sitting at the front.. great 1st time! The previous time was from my house to Jurong Central Park Mac... only 5 min drive... I was pleased with today's experience.

I hope soon, when Jaden listens better n follow better, I can drive Javier sitting in car seat at the front, n Jaden in his booster, sitting at the back... Like tat, even if hubby is working or not free for us, n yet i wana go out, I can do that... I'm sure I can, soon... Mayb is my self-confidence problem, so i hope i can do it soon alone, with my 2 princes. Luckily, Jaden previously was trained in car seat, n then now booster.. Or else, I'll b in trouble. Seems like the training in this area is still considered v smooth so far... *cross fingers*....

We shopped for 2.5hr at Lot1, n then back to home n let Jav rest. He was tired... Hahahhahahah... I had a great time today... Next week, I gonna try let Jaden sit in booster at the back, coz all the while was, he with his booster were at the front.. so now, gotta train him at the back... Hope all will go smooth ya!

New school bag for Jaden

We bought several bags for Jaden, n he oso had another 2 which were gifts....

We had been using the Mickey bag tat Xiaolin bought for him to bring to school since last year, but this year, we found that the bag might b too small... Gladys oso bought 1 nice green bag for Jaden for his bday last Nov, but the size is almost the same as the Mickey bag.

We need to pack a set of new clothes in the bag, pull-up pants, wet tissue, 1 bottle for him to drink water, 1 bottle for us to make milk for him, 1 small bottle to put extra water just in case he drinks up all the water, 1 thermal flask, his snack biscuits n some spare biscuits too. It is a bit too small to pack all these into the bags that he has. We had been trying out to pack the stuff into the Mickey bag, so the whole bag is simply full!

Yest after work, i met up with hubby at West Mall straight, for dinner n then to Tom & Stepfani to buy bag. I told him the bags there r v nice.. n indeed after some consideration, we decided to buy back the design of Mickey, but a slightly bigger one.

Next week, we will b using this new mickey bag for him... Hope to let him recognise the new bag asap... the other bags he has, we will use it for short distance... normally if long distance journey, i will bring my black diaper bag. But if to bring both boys, i will carry the big red diaper bag. Jaden refused to carry his own bag.. haiz...

Alternatively, his younger brother Javier can oso use his bags, haha which means Javier need not buy any new bags animore! tats the plus point when it comes to siblings r of the same gender.. hahahaha!

Primary School mates gathering 12-02-12

Although our primary school wasn't around animore, as it had closed down, n become the current Nan Hua Primary, but it did not 'close' our friendship...

We managed to find back many of our classmates, through facebook... n of course, after we graduated from Jin Shan, i still did stay in contact with some of them, esp 1 of my male classmate Zilun. We used to write letters to each other, updating each other's stuff, sent greeting cards to each other too.

Our primary school was a great sch with good environment... Til now, i still will think of our ex-school..

I did not attend a few gatherings liao, coz normally we will meet during CNY period, which is annually event. I was back in M'sia with hubby when they had the gathering. This year, the gathering was held at Zilun's house. Luckily, I can make it.

I was glad we still chatted alot to one another. It was a great experience. Most of us are married by now, some r just like me who have kids already, while some still enjoy twosome world. Some r still single...

It wasn't easy for ppl to still gather after so many years. We r primary school mates! And we are still keeping in contact with one another. This is simply great! Though I didn't stay for too long, as I had already made an apptment with my parents n 4th uncle n aunt, but I did enjoy talking to them. They r still v interesting people! I hope next year, I can join them again! I love my primary school friends!

My 30th birthday 09-02-12

With my wishes came true with wat i want, I finally turn 30 today!

I had always wished to get married by mid-20s, n indeed i got married when i was 25... I always wished to stop my 'production' by 30, n this year i am 30, n had officially announced that I'm closing factory! I always wished to have 2 kids b4 i close my production line, n indeed when i was 29 last year, I delivered my 2nd prince Javier last Sept.

This year 2012, when i turn 30, is the year when I think I should have a new resolution. Work hard n prove to myself that I am still capable.

This morn, we had an apptment with JMC to see psychologist abt Jaden's intake of food. He is v particular abt food, not willing to try any new food at all.. He is not in his top form this morn, so the whole session did not turn out happy. He was crying badly n loudly for the whole session. Not successful in making him eat, so next week gotta go back JMC for the next apptment. He was emotionally disturbed tat a few times he wanted to turn over n ask hubby n I for help, but we couldn't interrupt the session, tat made him even angrier. He knew the psychologist want him to sit down, so he couldn't stand up, n thus sat on the chair n cried badly n stamping his feet to show his anger. It was until a point that he really couldn't take it, he came to hold both hubby n my hands n say goodbye to the psychologist. He was really upset.

I really heartache lah, but cannot do much coz we just want the best for him. He was rather unstable after the session. I cannot bear to see hubby handling him alone, taking bus to bring him go school. So, decided to take leave. Both of us acc him take bus to school. He felt better when both of us were with him all the way. He could hold our hands n walked together all e way to school. After school, we took bus back home. he fell asleep b4 we reach home, but when reach home, he decided not to continue with his nap but to go play. ahahahaha, well, nvm let him be.

Evening, brought Javier for his 5 months jab. Javier is a brave boy! 2 jabs n he only cried for a few seconds n stopped. Great job my boy! He now weighs 7.37kg, height of 70cm! I tried feeding him with brown rice with ikan bilis, but he diarrhea til quite jialat... so we stopped. Yest he turned 5 months old. I specially go buy chicken leg n put at his lips to symbolise he's breaking vegetarian n will eat meat in e future. I actually missed it when he was 4 months old. Xiaolin was kind enuf to help me ask her mum, her mum say 5mth can do oso, so i went ahead to do. Javier made noise wanting to taste e 2nd time!!!! hahaahhaha!!!

After settling Javier, we went to Jack's Place at Safra. My sis, bro, biao ge n biao sao were waiting for hubby n me. They celebrated my bday together! thanks so much! we had a great chat til it's time for the restaurant to close then we realised how late it was! hahaha.. My bro paid the bill, thanks my bro!

It was a simple bday for me today. I just wish all of us can b of great health always... coz with good health, then we can do many things together happily! Jaden is getting better in the diarrhea part. At least today his waste is not watery. Hope by tmr he can fully recover! Hubby still has cough, hope he can recover asap too.. Age is catching up, but with my boys around, n my hubby, my life is complete!

Selling of tangyuan 03-02-12

This year, i'm back in charge of the chinese traditional festivals' fund raising events, yuan xiao & duan wu...

2012's CNY is early, thus this event was in a rush. But somehow, luckily it still went on smoothly on Friday.. Though the products came was far too small in size, but at least we managed to carry on as usual.

Reached school as early as 8.30am... sold the tangyuan for P3-P6 recesses... P1-P2 was left for my AM colleagues to handle, but i went to see see look look during the recesses. Practically no free time for me on Friday. Stayed til 7+ then knock off. It's so tiring I can say.

At last, the event was over. I'm still waiting for 4 more levels' money, so that i can calculate the total profit we made for this event.

I think that being a teacher is not easy. And, being a teacher, the main role is no longer teaching, unlike in the past. Being a teacher now needs to do lots of things besides teaching n marking. The things tat need to do always hinder us from marking. It has become so commercialised. It sounds sad isn't it.

I got abit sick of doing all this. Only when i was in maternity leave then i no need to do, or else every year, the 2 projects will be my baby.

I hope for nothing else, except for this year, i just need to endure! endure for wat?? secret.... tat keeps me going. And i told myself, i have to work hard this year, i wana prove to myself tat i am still capable, it's just tat whether i wana do or not.. so far, it's all still within my control n ability. Just continue to encourage me ya!