Recently, had been thinking alot. Well, it's not watever that's happening. It's just a casual talk n discussion with my colleagues regarding this matter.
We do have people around us who engaged in extra marital affair. Even if u r not handsome/pretty, not rich, not earning as much as u expected, but there r indeed such people who have none of the looks, $$, n yet can betray their partners.
I always think that, if a party really has extra marital affair, they can still get together all bcoz of the kids. Their relationship may not b as good as b4. The mirror has a crack, n no matter how u try to glue it back, u can still see the crack line... They may have cold war, or even quarrels everyday.
But, after listening to my colleague's point of view, i sat down n think about it, ya her point is right too.People always say, try to be together, bcoz they have kids. Even if they dun love each other animore, or trust each other animore, try to stay together... it's all for the kids' good. But, my colleague said, sometimes it may do good to the kids if the parents stay together all bcoz of them. They may not grow 'healthily' as we thought... Kids are not stupid. They know something is wrong. By being together all bcoz of the kids, really is good meh? If the family is not happy, even if the family stays together, they will still not b happy. psychologically, emotionally dun seem to help if parents dun treasure the relationship. Might as well divorce, straight cut...
We know that kids come from broken families normally have behavioural prob, or even attitude prob. But if this couple has a 'crack', will the kid still grow 'normally' and is better than the kid who come from broken family? No difference actually.
I can only say, b4 u betray, think 1st. Think tat u have a wife/husband at home, n your children waiting for u at home. But u still take up that step to betrayal, it means u had actually given up on your family. N pls, if u really decided to betray your family, when u get dumped by your lover, pls do not b thick-skinned to come back to find your spouse again.I told my colleagues, many women tried all means to maintain themselves, in order to prevent hubbies to find a mistress. But think again, if he really wants to betray u, no matter how well u maintain your figure, your looks, he will still betray u. Of course i do not mean that then u can simply sit there n allow yourself to grow horizontally like nobody's business lah. All we can do is, we ourselves stay loyal. If they really wana go off track, there's nothing much we can do. If trying to salvage still dun help, it means it's time to give up.
Said is easier than done. Give up... it's hard. But, after all, we still need to move on. Ladies who encounter hubby going off track, i really sympathise them. But we as modern women, should not b far too weak. We have our own earning power. Dun rely on hubby on EVERYTHING. We must b independent too. Tats y now we r equal.
We have more commitment when we have kids. I hope u can still remember. Why do we have kids? Aren't they the gems of our love? They were created in the beginning bcoz we love each other deeply, tat explained their existence... Dun let it fade easily, bcoz true love should not fade. But we normally get carried away by temptations. Dun forget, we have self control. This skill should be used to fight off temptations. It's hard to avoid, but i am sure if 1 is determined, no temptations will make u sway. I hope all couples that i know of will stay strong n be loyal to each other.
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