Yeah, i am officially promoted! My cousin's daughter Kylie arrived to join her family this morning through c-sect, at Mt Alvernia..
In my family, i was e 1 who got traditionally married 1st, though my biao ge got ROM-ed earlier than me.. In e family, in our generation, i am e only 1 with kids.. 2 sons n with no daughters..
I was looking forward to see this little niece of mine, coz in my family line, this is e 1st time i become an aunt... n somemore is a girl..
After work, went to Mt A with my sis... It's under renov, so abit messy... I had sad experience in this hosp, but now i think i had gotten over it. Anyway it's over...
My biao sao stayed in a 2-bedded ward. Lucky the other bed was empty.. Haha.. Many ppl went to visit e 1st time mum n the newborn.. Kylie has chubby cheeks!! so cute!
I am happy for my cousin n cousin-in-law.. They finally entered parenthood n have a child of their own. To me, a married couple shld have children. Unless it's proven that they r barren, otherwise dun c e need y not to have any kids.. at least 1 lah..
I am happy for any1 if she is preg, given birth smoothly, he is promoted etc.. as long as he/she is in my family or friends.. I am just like a mirror. I dun fake or act. I am truly happy for these ppl..
Soon, my another cousin, maternal side cousin will b e next 1 to deliver.. in June.. And i am going to b aunt again! Seeing all my friends settling down 1 by 1, having own child 1 by 1, is something happy n worth sharing e joy. I give my blessings. But if some ppl choose not to appreciate my blessing, then i have no choice.
Kylie's chinese name will go to a shifu to do e calculation, n hope her chinese name will not b difficult to write. Haha.. My granny now has 3 great grandchildren liao! I will bring my sons to visit Kylie again this weekend when they r discharged this Fri.. I like watching newborns, n i like carrying them. But no way that i will be the mummy e 3rd time! Haha!! I am just so scared to repeat all of these again, n e sleepless nights, disturbed sleeps.. oh no.. tats scary! Hahaha...
4 year 4 months = 52 months.. Wow, time really flies. Prince Jaden is 52 months old today! Yipppee!
Age is catching up... recalled back when i got married was only in my mid-20s.. n now i am early 30s.. opppsss...
Thank God for the gift, Jaden. A naive boy who is always happy, not competitive.. Loves to sai-nai at us, especially to my FIL. my FIL loves him dearly like a precious jewel. But when he does the wrong thing, he will scold n sometimes beat Jaden too. He is v close to my MIL, bcoz he was brought up n well taken care of by her since born. Initially, we do not want to have anymore kids but Jaden. But now, seems like we made e right choice for giving him a sibling. Of course, i have to thank Javier too. Thank him for wanting to join us in the family. I had losses b4 i conceived Javier.. Though he kept bullying Jaden, but whenever he wakes up, the 1st person he would b looking for will be korkor.
Jaden's smile is always his weapon to kill. His cries can b disastrous.. He is a fussy eater, but at least he still will eat rice. I dunno how to help him to eat more variety of food. We tried many ways, even went to a psychologist to help him, but no avail.
When things dun go his way, he will b angry n starts crying. But now he is more sensible.. Still, there is room for improvement. We let him grow n develop at his own speed.
His immune system is abit low, mainly bcoz he is a fussy eater. His 'best friends' are flu n cough. He had bronchiolitis, so when cough n running nose are too bad, he will have bad breathing prob. We learnt n managed to keep it down b4 it gets worse. Other than that, he is ok.
He runs v fast, n i think i need to do something abt my health, bcoz i cannot catch up with him. Hmmm, i am getting fatter n lazier. An active toddler who is always laughing loudly. I dun want to have high expectations on him, i just want him to be healthy n happy. Seeing him happy everyday makes me feel good. Hearing him sing is also making me laugh.. he likes me to tinkle him n then he laugh, then shout for help from my MIL. Haha..
Seeing our children growing up day by day is a great achievement. All we want is, they can grow up to b useful citizens, who can contribute to e society. At home, will b filial n kind boys. It is v hard to balance but i can b sure of is, our love for Jaden will not decrease bcoz of his younger brother. Jaden, must always be a good boy n stay happy ok? Papa n mummy love u. Didi loves u too!
I seldom wana talk about work, but sometimes i cannot help... Being in this profession, i get to see many diff kinds of kids n parents.. I can see how family backgrd can affect a child's upbringing...
Being a working mum, i can understand most of e parents' situation by being too busy n no time with e children.. I felt e same way too.. But i do see some r simply bo chup. and yet they r so defensive..
Eg, this mum is in e 2nd marriage.. She has 6 kids in total.. the boy is #3.. she has really no time n chance to teach him. After struggling in e language since last yr, i finally agreed the mum's request to help him apply for exemption. I shall not reveal too much infor. Just to say tat he is not a pure chinese, but mum is a chinese.. hmmm.
2nd case, this mum is also in e 2nd marriage. 4 kids.. this boy with me is #2.. mum v busy at work, reach hm v late as 9pm. Dad is also busy, n heard is quite violent. family r/ship in a mess.. his work is always not done, not checked by parents, though numerous calls from me. No improvement from him coz hm support is v poor.
It made me ponder, then y have so many kids? it made me scared too coz i have 2 kids n already no time.. financially wise is also another barrier for us, tats y no way we r going for #3 or even more. I am really worried. How to teach e kids at this generation? I cannot imagine. Tech savvy, everything so savvy n advanced. Kids mature earlier than expected, but actually they r not tat matured. I have no confidence my boys can b as well behaved as i want. I will only try my best to teach them.
I see so many of such cases in my work... N i oso dun wish to create such a case in e future. Who doesn't like kids. Who doesnt want to have a family full of kids n grandchildren in e future when we grow old? U may not understand my feelings, bcoz u r not in this line.. But if u are, n u see with your own eyes, u handle e case ( be it discipline, academic etc), u will b shocked. How confident are we to ensure our kids will be definitely a good model for e rest? I am sure, we can only say, we will try our best...
I see many ugly sides of people through this line, coz i meddle with kids, parents, n even their family backgrd matters. Then i get to see how kids r brought up in their respective families. We have no choice bcoz of the hectic lifestyle. No 1 can understand such thing except for the same line colleagues. To b frank, i would also like to have many kids, but i have to face e reality, no way.. I dunno how to explain my feelings whenever i face kids with such problems.
When the MTP session was over, my feelings went stronger. My thoughts are in a swirl. I dunno how to help them. I tried my best to even prepare materials for them but no output from e problematic ones. How to blame e parents, n even e kids... I did feel angry n frustrated. But wat can i do? This is really sad u koe? i have to face so many of such cases every year, n every colleague is also facing it. But of course, it does not mean that things will b better if u have lesser kids.
Ppl have diff views in parenting. And being an educator, what i can do is limited. It set me thinking, multi-tasking role is not easy, esp in this line. No 1 can understand better abt my thoughts unless u join this profession.
Yesterday was e annual Meet-The-Parents Session (MTP)... had to report to school by 0730hr... I got up at 0550hr, to bathe n get ready.. n oso to pack e things tat i would need for the 2nd event of the day, Huiyu's wedding..
My disaster timing starts after 2pm.. non-stop til ard 5.15pm... Most of my colleagues had went off b4 5pm... i was e last 1 to finish e whole session.. All tables n chairs were stacked n packed.. even our OM came ringing e bell telling my pupils' parents tat it's time to go.. but nonetheless i still did not manage to go..
When i came down to e staff room, only few of us were ard, as some of them were taking e transport from school to expo to attend Huiyu's wedding. I drove there...
As expected, no time to go home bathe.. luckily brought e dress n shoes along... After a little chat with my colleagues, ard 6pm, we set off... traffic ok, carpark wise still ok tat i managed to find a lot quite fast...
Actually, worked for so many hours non stop like tat, i was really exhausted... Only ate til 4th or 5th dish i already stopped... Brain too tired.. felt more like sleeping than to eat.. but still, i hang on til e end of the event...
Reached hm near to 12am... took over from hubby n handled Jav.. 1am+ he woke up asking for milk.. after tat ard 4+, then 6+, 7+ n then finally 0800 he woke up... wat a night.. i was really drained out from work on a weekend, n then Jav's crankiness.. i kept yawning today.. I am so so so tired.. throat pain now... voice abit coarse too..
I kept wanting to doze off today.. But as promised, i had to acc my cousin to buy herbs for my biao sao's confinement... they could see tat i am tired.. wats worse was, tmr n tues need to report to work from 0800-1700hr... i dunno if i can survive.. this week i had not done any housework.. i hope i can survive.. well, no maid is like that... everything do ourselves...
It's really exhausting.. such life is wat i always hate... haiz.. but wat to do... gotta start coaxing Jav to sleep n then i can sleep, or else i am going to oversleep... good night!
It is not easy being a parent.. I cannot say i am a good parent, but wat i can be sure of is, i am definitely not the worst..
I recently got to hear from my sis about a new mum... a frd of her frd's...
To me, being a parent is never easy. But sometimes always hear from ppl tat it seems easy to be a parent... How easy can it be?
Being a parent is not just by having sex, getting the woman preg, give birth n thats it... If it is that easy, whoever also can be a parent.
This 1st time mum, got preg b4 her wedding. She is in her mid-20s. Wat scared us was, her daughter now is 2mths old, has no toys at all... My sis asked me for help, asked if i have any extra toys tat i do not want anymore, she wanted to give to the bb girl. I heard the story n was really agitated. Wat kind of mother is this.. Daughter has no toys at all! Not even an infant rattle.
My sis went to pass e toys to this mum, together with her good friend L... The baby has no 1 to talk to, n to play with at all for the 2 months. She smiled n laughed when my sis n her frd L played with her. The mum told them, that was e 1st time she saw her daughter laugh. Walao... I cannot imagine, the bb shld b always on her own e whole day, with no 1 to play with. L told my sis, e mum said dunno how to play with the baby!
L encouraged the mum to bring the bb out more often. She can ask such silly question, how to make milk when bb is hungry?? she doesn't know anything about milk powder dispenser! Thermal flask... She asked L if go outside, if bb wana change diaper then how? oh my, doesn't she has heard from nursing room??? My sis n I had goosebumps when we heard tat there's such an ignorant person on earth.
Though the preg was an unplanned one, but since decided to give birth to her, then at least do some research. No 1 is born to know how to handle a bb, how to be a parent. All these need to learn. If dunno, go ask. Child is 2 months old, n dunno a bit of how to handle at all. Dunno tat child can actually smile n laugh. Some ppl r like that, they think giving birth to children v easy. They will grow up by themselves. As long as we feed them, give them shelter, n tat is called a parent. C'mon!
If i dun need to handle kids at all, everything can b settled by passing to caregiver, or maid worse, then i give birth to a dozen is not a problem. We need to play with them, talk to them... Working parents have less time with kids, n that is e fact. But ppl still bother to fork out time to talk to kids, play with them. Sometimes i was wondering, wat r all these ppl doing? In this generation where every1 is educated, y do things tat is just e opposite? Haiz. My sis n I really pity the bb girl. Being a parent is never easy. Every1 has their own way of parenting. But remember, if u wana give birth to a child, then give your child the basic needs n do e duty of a parent at e least.. Not just feed them, give them shelter... they need attention, love, care....
I was down with bad running nose on Wed... plus abit of sore throat.. Jav was oso down with running nose... Thur morn both of us went to see doc.. bad... was given 2 days of mc... now the running nose went off liao.. the med was indeed strong..
My car's aircon was down.. no air, no coolness, no nothing.. hot like mad... esp passenger seats at e back, simply like sauna...
Fri morn since i am still on mc, so brought my car to my old house Clementi... went online to search for workshops... called them b4 i went down..
Aircon coil was leaking... expected something wrong lah.. i went servicing just 1week ago, n changed my aircon filter... so i knew something more serious is happening...
Spent $550 to have a change of my aircon coil.. but e spend was ok, the whole car is so cool now.. even when i just on number1 switch of aircon.. But was heartache...
Car old liao, everything starts to spoil.. I still refused to repair e steering wheel eek-eek sound, n my spoilt left mirror.... it's going to cost me another 1.5-2k for these 2 stuff... no way... i can still tahan, but aircon cannot wait mah.. car is a liability of course... costly...
My car is 4years old now... i have to decide fast if to keep, sell or change...
