My 2 little men, Jaden & Javier

I always thought that God may just give me a child, Jaden.. But who koes after some miracles, Javier appeared n decided to stay with us til his arrival into the family. Til now, I still harbour the thought of gratefulness to God that he gives us these 2 precious boys. And I had gotten over the fact tat we have no fate to have daughters. Well, aniway no way tat we r going to try for #3... Haha...

Jaden & Javier's age gap is near to 3 years old. Jaden is 2008 Nov 21st, while Javier is 2011 Sept 8th.

It seems like Javier is bigger in size than his korkor at his age. Jaden though not v healthy, but at least now we koe how to get his bronchiolitis under control with the help of his inhaler. Javier, in terms of physical, may not b as good as Jaden. He is still like humpty dumpty. When Jaden was ard 6 months, could already sit v steady in high chairs, but not Javier.

Jaden as 3 years, 4 months n 5 days old, weighs 14kg n 101cm of height. I dunno if it is of ideal or not for his age. Mayb i should look at his health bklet to see if he is ok, hopefully not underweight. I had not weighed Javier yet, but i'm sure he won't b any lighter.

Javier is rather greedy with food. Sample packs of cereals from Nan, he could finish 1 sample pack size.. Heinz puree he could oso finish 1 bottle, n sometimes find it not enuf, when the bottle is finished, he would make noise wanting to eat more. Faintz.

Jaden is a cheerful n naive boy, STILL. Yes, still. Tats wat i love abt him. He never fails to make me feel good. He now will oso kiss me on the lips, sometimes to my MIL n hubby too. A picky eater who loves chicken rice n his S26 milk! haha.

With them by my side, I felt fortunate. Though it can b tiring looking after them after work, but I hope such tiredness can bring in closeness btwn us as a family. Javier always smiles at me when he koes i'm back from work. Jaden follows instructions better now, and is more willing to listen. More room of improvement for him, I'm sure he'll b more sensible soon.

I pray nothing more than their good health n positive mindset in life. I will try my utmost best to nurture them into good person, as i blif, all Man is kind by nature. But no matter how fake e world is, or how cruel the world is, they can still face the society n truth in a positive manner. Hope they can b of help to the society n b good children. Nothing is easy, but i will try my best.

Jaden is 3 years 4 months old!

Thank God for His blessing by giving Jaden to us. Today marks him being 3 years & 4 months old!

Remember 3 years 4 months ago, he was born in NUH in the midnite after less than 7 hours of labour time. To b more exact, when fully dilation til his arrival only took 2hr+... He was considered a full term bb, 38 weeks....

Though during these few years, he always fell sick n even was hospitalised a few times, but he never failed to have a strong will n fought on, all e way til now... I am grateful tat he is a strong willed boy!

He is a very active toddler... A naive toddler whose laughter is always so contagious n melt our hearts.. I simply love his smile n laughter. Esp when i feel tired n demoralised, he will make me feel stronger... He is our apple...

He can b v stubborn n refused to listen. I am sure no kid is easy... But compared to the past, he is considered better now. Though he still need beating at times.. But it's all for his own good.. I never blif a child can never b beaten by parents. At such young age, feeling painful is the fastest way to get e message through tat what they did was wrong. As they grow older, n more sensible, n u koe tat he/she can listen to reasons, then there might not b a need to hit animore. But i always think, such situation can only wait til they r much older. Well, it's up to individual parent as in how they wana teach their child.

I cannot say I can teach my sons well.. Bcoz Jaden is indeed v spoilt. Just bcoz he is v spoilt, tats y i hope his teachers can b more stricter towards him. I trust what his teachers can do to him. If he is really so absurb, he deserves a beating. I'm rather disappointed with his teachers in the childcare tat he attended last year to b frank. But well, it's over. Now, he is coping well... I just hope tat his teacher can teach him to b a better boy. Now, he is slightly more sensible, go out will hold our hands. Even if he runs, oso wont b as bad as last time when he was younger.

No matter wat, i only hope for his good health n positive mind. He must stay happy all e time. I'm consoled when he will come over n sayang didi, n say he loves didi. That is an improvement in his speech. I hope when Javier is slightly older, they can communicate to help Jaden in his weak areas. Nonetheless, I love Jaden as he is. No matter how he is, I still love him.

My weekend

Time passes so fast, tmr starting work again after having a short break from wed til now.. feel that time is not enuf...

Yest, went to attend a wedding dinner at Hotel Miramar, my pri sch mate Aini's wedding... The weather was not tat good yest. Lucky didnt bring either of the boys there. I was a little disappointed actually. There were many pillars in the ballroom, n our table was completely disturbed. Cannot see the stage at all, n we were sitted at the corner, so cannot see the march-in well too.

The food was ok, i like the shark's fin, found it rather special. Different from the other shark's fin we had in the weddings. Is in clear soup based n had cabbage in there too. It was nice i could say. Hubby liked the scallops... haha...

Had a great chat with my other 3 pri sch mates... I'm so grateful tat til now, we can still chat, just like old time friends. Though only til CNY gathering or wedding functions then will see one another, but it's still fun..

Today, was my colleague Yanfang's son full mth showers at Bukit Batok. Wanqiu was kind enuf to come n fetch me n Jav... Javier was obviously tired.. Lucky he didn't throw temper over there. Had a short chat with other colleagues, n of course some ex-colleagues too. Felt so envious of them who left the sch, they looked so refreshed n energetic...

Yanfang gave us a box of cakes from sweetest moments.. thanks alot. Caius is a v cute bb boy! a pity bcoz i need to carry Jav, so i did not get a chance to carry bb Caius. When Wanqiu was carrying Jav for me, it was time for me to munch my food. haha.. Luckily, he was ok for her to carry. phew.. After staying near to 1hr,or 1hr+ n we need to leave 1st. Wanqiu drove us back, n Jav fell asleep again in the car, n when we got home, i put him in the yaolan n til now, he still sleeping. Must b too tired! hahaha...

Tmr is a new term start again.. I must re-start my engine!!

To the Bird Park 15-03-12

Thank God for the fantastic weather! As planned, hubby n I brought Jaden to the Bird Park today!

Yest evening, we brought the 2 boys home... As Javier sleeps early every nite, i need to coax him to sleep 1st, as hubby couldnt do this part of the job. Jaden has a loud voice, thus had a long time to make Jav sleep. After settling him, i asked hubby to stay in the room with Jav, while it's time to coax Jaden to sleep.

I made some milk for him, n made him go to the master bdroom at 10.30pm... Ard 10.45pm, he started his sleep.

This morn, we went to JP to meet my mil... Had some food there, n we passed Jav to her, while we went off with Jaden. She said she wanted to have a walk at JP, n asked us to leave.. After some consideration, we decided to head to Bird Park still, though i had another place in mind.

It was rather crowded there as its sch holidays, but the crowd is still acceptable.. The weather was indeed great! We did not paste on any anti-mos patch, n luckily we did not 'feed' the mosquitoes there.

Had a great time there... Most of the time was we held Jaden's hands, only some time will carry him awhile... Hubby enjoyed feeding the birds, i think the 1 who enjoyed most is hubby liao. Hahaha...

We did not go to the water play area! Hahahahaha!! Did sit on the panorail, n Jaden was obedient. There r so many species of birds! How many years did we not go to the bird park liao? wow... After the visit to the bird park, we went to eat at Bongo Burgers just outside the entrance. Jaden had his french fries while we had burgers. Now we r at home, taken a bath but no nap as Jaden is still v energetic. We r going off to my in laws' house soon... Hope Jaden has an enjoyable day today. Daddy, mummy n didi always love u...

Meet-The-Parents Session 10-03-12

The annual MTPS is here again, but this year is diff as it was held on a Sat, a full day!!!

I was extremely exhausted, to b frank... But luckily, this year, I managed to go off for lunch on time, n left the school on time. Unlike the prev years, i had no time to even go for my toilet breaks! Phew this year, i'm considered lucky.

No jobs in this world is easy. As a full time working mum, life is not tat easy too. Mayb to some ppl, they think that we are not good parents.. But, whenever I knocked off from work, besides having my dinner, my other time would b with my boys. I ensure even I'm not feeling well, I would still spend some time playing with them, hug n kiss them, talk to them. If I am those cannot-be-bothered type of parents, I could jolly well not go over to my in laws house after work, only til wkends then bring them home, weekdays completely no need to see the children. I do know some friends/ppl around me who r like that.

I'm lucky tat my MIL helped me with the care taking of my boys, n let me go to work with a rested mind. Now, sometimes my FIL would oso try to help out too. My stamina somehow has improved. Not in terms of running stamina, but physically. In the past, if i'm so busy like now, n always need to go sch early, less than 1 week i would b v sick liao. But til now, though feel backache n headache n tired, but at least i can still hang on. Must b my Confinement Lady who had given me good nourishment during my confinement last Sept. Or watever, i dunno.

Mostly for families now is both parents are needed to go work n earn money for the family. Thus, no time for kids by the time they knock off. I can understand. After all, not all r lucky to stay at home to look after kids, n only depend on hubby to go earn money. If my hubby so capable, i dun mind staying at home! ahahahahaha...

I just hope, parents to b more encouraging n involved in their children's schoolwork n character building. To me, results r not as impt as character building n attitude. So wat if u r v smart n clever, but your character sucks? Spend some time to check their work or chat with them. The kids will appreciate. Dun expect everything to b done n assisted in school. It needs 2 hands to clap, so parents need to b involved. If u dun help your child, who can? After all, we r just the helping hands beside your child to help them excel. Parents expect the teachers to do everything, it is impossible. U r then the parents, not us. If your child achieves something, u feel proud n think tat is bcoz u always spend $$ for them to go tuition/enrichment classes, but when they r underachievers, u question n complain. Tats not the right attitude n way to nurture a child.

Well, as i always tot, every1 has their own views n ways of handling things. I cannot tell u wat to do, after all it's your own choice. I just hope all parents to b aware that, do something to prove to your child tat u care. I will always remind myself too.

Javier is 6 months old!

8th of March is International Women's Day, which also is Javier turning 6 months old! Yeah...

I bought rice cereal for him a few days ago. MIL make a small bowl n let him try today while i was at work. She said that he managed to finish it. Wow great... Sunday I will make him a bowl myself.

This week I'm extremely busy, need to go sch v early.. Sat full day from 8am-5pm.. Super sianzzz... Yest brought Jav home, hubby took care of him. In the middle of the night, he had a nightmare n was crying v badly.

I quickly got up n comforted him as hubby couldn't handle him... After some consoling n drinking of milk, he went back to sleep...

This morn, brought him n hubby over to in laws' house v early. I'm so tired. Hope can tahan... 8 more months to go for 2012... I must hang on. Pls dun kill my new resolution ok?

I hope this younger prince of mine can b v happy n cheerful always. Health is still the most impt factor... He has e love from every1 in the family.. N i am sure he koes..

Too stressed

I really find by living in Spore is really stressful. Everyday work bcoz of living.. n $$ always dun seem to b enough, sleep time not enough, private time not enough, rest not enough,etc.

But something is not really balance. Workload is getting more n more. Time lesser, $$ no increase. Shit work accumulating. I koe every sector is facing the same prob too. But think again, esp for our profession.... Our main job is not raise funds, organise events, 'perform' for other ppl etc. What is our main job? TEACH! But now i somehow think, teaching mayb only 20-30%, e rest of the time is do other stuff tat has nothing much to do with teaching. Bcoz of this, all our markings r stacking day by day, coz no time to mark. No time for toilet too, sometimes even for my meals.

I refused to bring work home, but these few days really too busy tat i have to. Coz i prefer to spend my time after work for my boys. Jav sleeps early, sometimes b4 9pm he will start sleeping liao. By the time i reach in laws' house, is already at least 7pm. Jaden though sleeps later ard 10.30-11pm, but still, haiz.. i dunno how to say.. Sometimes how i wish i can spend more time at home.. Tats e diff btwn SAHM n FTWM.

Being a SAHM isnt easy at all, coz all tat regards the child is your business. But at least e diff is, u get to spend more time, quality time with your kids. FTWM has lesser time with kids. None of this is easy for a mummy, regardless if u r SAHM or FTWM. It's just tat our work targets are diff. It's equally tiring. I koe.

It means tat staying in spore is really too stressed up. No wonder many ppl are 'running away'. $$ is always not enough. But at least i can b v sure that this place is safe, n is free from natural disaster. This is what we r blessed with. Nothing is fair or balance. We r not saints. But i just hope the pace can dun go THAT FAST or not. I almost everyday having headache. Mayb is me not being efficient enough.... I just hope e things we do are meaningful n with a purpose. If the path is clear, i sure will do... But if is just for e sake of doing, then y do? But well, mayb many things tat ppl do is for the sake of doing lah, but i was like, why the society become like tat?

Mayb i am too stressed, started to grumble n whine. Mayb after my projs on hand are settled, i may feel better. Lucky after all, i have my boys as my strength n pillars!